Yes Virginia, God does honor our choices, even when they are so, so wrong

Right and Wrong Way Road Sign with dramatic blue sky and clouds.

A few days ago, I put up the following quote on Facebook:

“Be one of the small number who find the way to life, and enter by the narrow gate into Heaven. Take care not to follow the majority and the common herd, so many of whom are lost. Do not be deceived; there are only two roads: one that leads to life and is narrow; the other that leads to death and is wide. There is no middle way.”— St. Louis de Montfort

Shortly after I put up the post, I receive a negative comment. This negative comment led another comment that accused me of having a very narrow view of God’s love. I have no idea why my post would inspire such a comment other than what I have come to discover, any reference to any accountability for anyone’s lifestyle, makes one somehow not as “free” or “space saving” or as understanding of God’s love as one should be.

I do believe in that God is love. I believe God loves every human being and offers every human being the opportunity for grace, acceptance, and love. I also believe love (by its very nature and definition) must be a freely chosen relationship. Love can exist and not be reciprocated. Love takes a risk of rejection. Love is willing to endure even heartbreak.

Then there is the issue of the very words of Christ: “Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the road is easy1 that leads to destruction, and there are many who take it. For the gate is narrow and the road is hard that leads to life, and there are few who find it. (Matt. 7:13-14 NRS)

Is this passage to be trusted.

Current argumentation from polls in matters of moral conduct tacitly supposes the expectation that most men will accept gospel morality. It loses sight of the fact that Jesus had plainly said that few would enter the narrow gate and tread the hard road of his moral code (Mt 7:13-14).[1]

As a spiritual director I have found that, first, discernment is an absolute need in experiencing love and not an imitation of love. Second, authenticity, can what you believe be trusted? How trusting are you of your spiritual supports? This leads to the third crucial element, trust. I trust the Bible to be true. I believe all Scripture is God-breathed and that the Holy Spirit guides the faithful in their reading of the Scripture in a way the leads them to God’s will. I trust the Holy Spirit.

So, through my own after death experience and through my study of the Scripture I am guided to believe there are two paths. If once choses to ignore God, that is one’s right as a free, moral being. If one believes the Scripture, “Then he will say to those at his left hand, ‘You that are accursed, depart from me into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angel;” (Matt. 25:41 NRS) then it is important that people understand this. It is not a fear tactic, it is a moral reality. To talk about this reality is not downgrading God’s love, it is highlight the gift of choice that makes us unique as human beings.


[1] Dubay, Fr. Thomas. Authenticity . Ignatius Press. Kindle Edition.